The proposal can be one of the most daunting tasks about the entire wedding experience for the man. Because we all know that as soon as word gets out, the first question that will be asked is, "How did he ask?" It's become a part of our YouTube culture these days to see over the top proposals like "Isaac's Live Lip-Dub Proposal" or the even more over the top "Justin and Emily: The Proposal". While these are super impressive, you don't have to know a choreographer or be a movie producer to give her a proposal that she'll remember for life. Here's my story and Five Tips to Ace the Proposal.
#1 KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS
This tip is not only super useful for the proposal, but also a really great tip for your relationship and the health of your future marriage. Hopefully you’ve been listening. Hopefully you know her as well as you think. Although you may have grandiose ideas of an over the top public proposal (I know I did), that’s not going to land with her if what she really wants is a romantic private proposal.
I knew that Morgan would want friends and family to be involved in some way, but nothing that was super public where she would be put on the spot.
#2 - GET HELP
If you read yesterday’s, “Choosing the Perfect Engagement Ring - 25 Days…” you’ll notice a trend here. I know what I’m good at and what I’m not. When I’m not, I partner with an expert that is! Enter again, Krystel and Karina from Couture Events. These ladies are incredibly talented at design and coordination and I knew that in order to pull off my plan, I would need their help.
Over coffee in Little Italy one afternoon, I explained to Krystel that I wanted to setup an inspiration shoot much like the one that Morgan and I met on. I thought it would be really special to have Morgan back in wedding dresses and me behind the camera for what would be the most important day in our lives so far. At the end of the shoot, I would setup Morgan for the classic bouquet shot, get down on one knee to take a photo of the flowers, then switch my camera for an engagement ring from my camera bag. Krystel was thrilled and jumped at the idea!
We found the date that would work and booked the shoot. I knew Morgan’s schedule was open, so after a couple months went by, Krystel reached out to her to ask if she wanted to model for our “Boots and Bowties” inspiration shoot. The title of the shoot was a 'wink' as Morgan is a country singer and I wear bowties to all the weddings I shoot. I can remember Morgan getting off the phone and hesitantly asking me, “Hey, Krystel asked me to model for your shoot in November. Are you okay with that?”
I tried my best to nonchalantly answer, “Yeah, that would totally be cool,” but then had to leave the room because I couldn’t hide my smile for long...
#3 - LAND THE PLANE
This part is going to be different for everyone, but for us it was absolutely perfect! John, my assistant from the shoot that Morgan and I first met on was in town and came along for the day. When John and I arrived at The Estancia Hotel, Krystel and Karina were already almost done with table decor setup on the Olive Lawn. They freaking nailed it and I was completely blown away! So many amazing vendors were a part of this and I cannot thank them enough!
Morgan’s call time was a bit earlier, so I dropped down to the bridal suite to visit her during hair and makeup. Erin Luce was doing her amazingness as always and Morgan looked stunning. It was such a surreal experience to look at her, knowing that she didn’t have any idea what we were really there for, and realizing that soon she would be my fiancé. Before I totally blew the secret with my uncontrollable smile and teary eyes, I slipped out and waited for her on the lawn. When she arrived, I was speechless...
It was so incredibly fun shooting together again, but then Krystel gave me the cue that it was time.
Just as I had planned, I got her into the perfect spot so that John could get a shot, and I got down on one knee to shoot the bouquet. I nervously took a few shots of the bouquet and then put my camera down to my side. The moment I did that, she immediately realized what was happening.
I had planned all of these amazing things to say, but the gravity of the moment blanked my mind and I could do little else but smile. I managed to get out a few sweet words before I asked, "Morgan, will you marry me?"
She said yes, kissed me and then immediately hugged me. It was a few minutes and still hadn't put the ring on yet though! I had to remind her that she got to wear it now!
Then I told her to turn around. She asked why and I said, "Just turn around." When she saw our parents walk out from behind the hedge, she lost it. It was the most special moment.
#4 - HIRE A PHOTOGRAPHER TO CAPTURE IT ALL
Obviously I'm a little biased on this point, but your lady will THANK YOU for thinking of this! I've hidden in plenty of bushes to secretly shoot proposals so many times and after the question has been popped and I come walking up, the newly engaged always turns and thanks her guy for thinking to hire me!
In this case, our photographer in the bushes was my friend and amazing photographer Sara. She was there to capture it all and after the tears subsided a bit, we did a little mini-shoot around The Estancia to get some pictures of the two of us newly engaged!
#5 - HAVE AN AFTER PARTY PLAN
You found the ring, planned the proposal, got down on one knee, and asked her to marry you; you're done right? Not if you really want to do it right. This "after party" can range from just the two of you on a rooftop romantic dinner, to a full on party waiting for you, but have a plan of what you're going to do afterwards. Have a way to soak in the moment and capture all of the excitement in that night!
With started off by having dinner and drinks with just our parents at The Estancia, but I had a little something extra planned for later that night back at the house.
A huge thank you goes out to all of our friends and family that showed up that night and partied the evening away with us! We are so thankful to have all of you in our lives!
Some of the highlights from the Red Photo Booth that we had running that night :)